Millennials Are Bad at Everything? …
by Garrett Larson
Ha. No – But I am not sure how good we are at a lot of things – because of tech and related – so this includes friendships! What is going on?! (I know and believe we are great at a lot of things btw!)
What a lot of my millennial friends and I complain about: money/job shit/money lol/…. RELATIONSHIPS! How hard they are they?! ‘Adulting’ as a millennial is tough (lol that phrase is snappy, but oh well), but most adults agree it is difficult to make lasting new friendships as adults! Factor in tech and it really is tough! So… what to do?
Several times this year I have woken up, or randomly thought: what is what?! Like #2017, right? Ha. Dating – yes! But, I want to talk about friendships. People that are there for you and care about you/for you – and you really love and care about each other – and are not trying to get anything out of each other: #network. God, I hate networking and that term in general ha. So I have been thinking about what makes a good friend and how we know if it will last.
The Way I See My Friendships:
Trusted Friend = GOLDEN
We have built trust.
We put time into talking (in person/phone..).
We speak more often than not because we want to and make time to – even if just for a few minutes or silly texts off and on. 🙂
What is What Acquaintance = Yuck!
No one is doing much to see each other – no one seems to care – what is the point? Maybe you have lost interest or are just busy – but no one seems to care so the friendship is drying up/cooling down.
You still keep up once in a while – that’s OK – if it works for both of you. I am just more into having close, trusted friends and building those relationships … and letting people in and introducing others to others! Let people meet each other! It’s fun!
Friends Get Fired?!
Yes and no – ha, not to be dramatic, but if it is not working – say something! Be pleasant, but honesty is the best! And it works! Boom bam. If that does not work I put less energy into the relationship, lower expectations to zero (sad I know), and let it fizzle into what is what or, acquaintance land! Sad, but there are loving, amazing and wonderful friends out there! I met a recent bff while volunteering at an art museum! It was interesting and then great to have met a new loving friend!
So! Put yourself out there! Smile (I know I have a RBF) ha google it if you are thinking what is what. OK fine! It means resting bitch face – like you aren’t mad, but u sorta look mad when you are just being you, ha. … Step away from the tech shit! Seriously! Stop! I use it too – to guard myself from the world some too. How sad. Why not be friendly and meet people while out and about!
What not to do:
Who knows, lol – clingy is not pretty. Not being open and honest will fail the friendship. Secrets are not fun. Excluding is sad.
I love these from the Bible!:
24 One who has unreliable friends soon comes to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.
9 Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: 10 If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up.
12 My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you. 13 Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends. 14 You are my friends if you do what I command. 15 I no longer call you servants, because a servant does not know his master’s business. Instead, I have called you friends, for everything that I learned from my Father I have made known to you.
Give gifts! Even little silly things that cost a dollar. I like to give out #vintage lol cassettes from the 90s. Silly stuff that shows you care. 🙂 Always a pleaser.
So what doesn’t help if you feel lonely:
self-medicating, over medicating (lots of drinks/pills), overindulging in general. …
I remember God told me once to not have a poverty mindset – I took that as financial because of financial drama. Lol.
We should aim big and have people that treasure us, what to help us move forward with our goals, and want our advice about how they can too! No poverty mindset! Aim big!
Blessings and Prayers!
garrett/baby g 🙂
Edited by: Z.J. Thank you 🙂
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